Autism and my friend.

This is Truce.

He is everything you would hope your 17 year old would be. Kind, patient (especially with my rascal of a 6 year old😏) smart, full of joy and handsome.

Truce also happens to have Autism.

It takes a village to raise a child. It takes a child with autism to raise the consciousness of the village,
— Coach Elaine Hall

When I first met Truce I was invited to a dinner with my family by his parents. The first thought that ran through my mind was similar to most first meetings with other peoples kids and mine, ‘Oh I hope my son is kind.’

Over the past year we have gotten to know Truce and his family. My son loves when he gets to play with his buddy and I enjoy the company of the whole crew! I was lucky enough as a child to gain exposure in our grade school with an inclusion program. At a young age we were educated on differences and challenges that other kids may be experiencing and that has been golden in understanding that we are not all cut from the same cookie cutter. God makes us ALL unique, but more importantly with value.

I approached Truce’s mom and asked about taking some pictures to help raise awareness and share about Autism. April was Autism awareness month, but that is why I am posting today, May 1st. While the awareness month fades away and we move on the next cause to bring to light, Truce and his family still live with Autism.

I wanted to give those who have children who may be non-verbal a voice. I wanted to show more than a ribbon, or a puzzle piece. I wanted to show the face of a beautiful soul who I hardly know yet that makes the time to be kind to us every time we see him.

We had fun, we danced a little, we took pictures together and we did jump moves like his favorite characters, Mario and Luigi. I hope my son never sees people for anything more than who they truly are. Truce is truly awesome. I am in love with how animated he is! His parents have put in time and effort to make sure he knows he’s loved and fought to make sure he’s always had the best available to him.

Isn’t that what every parent does? As a parent I feel it’s our duty to look out for our children and teach our children to be on the lookout for opportunities for kindness.

What parents of any child can’t do, is protect them against judgment. The awareness is important so we create a community of seekers. People who ask questions like, how can I help? Or How can we learn more?

The spectrum is LARGE. So before people form an opinion on how terrible a parent is because of their child’s behavior, we can assess the situation first. It is always best to assume as parents, we are ALL doing the best we can in that exact moment.

Parenting is the hardest job I have ever attempted.

Take the time to see the beauty in the gift of life, because it is a gift to be able to raise a child in the world. While Truce may have the challenges of autism, as far as I am concerned, he’s just a pretty cool guy.

If you want to learn more, get involved or have questions please go to Autism Speaks and/or share this blog. When we know better we can do better.

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